The Notebook

I finally watched the movie “The Notebook” today in its entirety and I have to admit – I cried. It’s been a long time since a love story has been able to move me emotionally, right until the end. I started out my young beginnings truly believing in the “forever” kind of love (I mostly blame the romantic 80’s Hindi movies for this). The last decade has me a little on the jaded side though and thus I have found other ways to fulfill myself such as work, friendships and my beloved Yorkie, Bentley.

But, at the end of the day, I know we are looking for that ONE love, but what is it about this friggin’ love that eludes us? Is love all about luck, passion and holding on by the tips of your fingernails (Noah & Allie)? Or is love about sacrifice and letting go (Lons & Allie)? The latter makes me reflect on this quote from Prison Break:

"The keys for someone else’s happiness are not necessarily the same ones as to your own".

I guess I am looking for the happy-happy kinda love, not the sad-happy flavour. Does that even make any sense? Sacrifice, letting go, forgiveness – these are all essential to finding that true unconditional love, but what’s the point when it leaves one alone and empty?

I think we should all strive for the happy-happy love that sweeps us away and keeps us on Cloud 9 till the very end. Granted that not all of us can or will find that love in this lifetime – but wait, I’ve come upon a secret and let me share it with you!

Start with loving YOU! And I don’t mean the narcissistic, egotistical or self-centred “I think I am a big-shot” kinda love. But more of a “I am enough, I am worthy of my own love, forgiveness and kindness, and I am-going-to-do-everything-I-can-to-make-myself-happy-even-if- it-means writing I-love-you-yellow-stickies-to-myself kinda love”.

Buy yourself your favourite flowers, savour some fine chocolates , indulge in your favourite hot curry *lol*, or treat yourself to a nice hot bath, and I bet you, when you start loving yourself Mr. (or Ms.!) Love will come knockin’ at your door! Just make sure you freshen up that curry breath with some mints tho!